Thursday, November 8, 2012
Terms of Endearment
I drove down to my local Walmart this morning to get the oil changed on my Honda van. Drove around to the Lube Express and walked in to the service counter. The 50'ish lady at the service counter greeted me with a smile and a "good morning, honey". As she entered my order into the auto service computer she called me "honey" a couple more times. Then she gave me my receipt and said if I have any shopping to do she would page me when the car was ready, again addressing me as "honey".
I then walked into the main store and drifted around, picking up a few things I had put on my shopping list and after a short time I was paged, paid for the items in my basket, then returned to the lube service counter. The same lady ran my transaction through and handed me my keys, then said "have a great day, honey".
As I drove home I thought about why it feels so good to be called "honey". I like it! Oh, I know in these days of political and social "correctness" service people are not supposed to call folks "honey". But I truly can't understand why anyone would be offended by it. I guess it all started with the women's movement. I guess feminists decidedly a few decades ago that the term "honey" somehow trivializes them. Then, as the term became verboten for women, I guess it became forbidden to utter that term with men as well.
I think that's sad. I've travelled often throughout the South and found calling folks "honey" is still prevalent down there. I can't count the times waitresses and store clerks called me "honey" down that way. And every time it brings a smile to my face.
Maybe, in this current environment, when folks can be so savagely hard with others, we ought to resurrect calling each other "honey" whenever given the chance. How can one be angry with someone who calls you "honey?"
I don't know if that little term of endearment does anything to anyone else but the lady that dared to call me "honey" this morning has left me with a smile on my face all morning...and with a disposition as sweet as "honey".